How to avoid a quarrel in a relationship: 10 tips YouTube-pair Natalie Yashchuk and Alexandra Khomenko

Natasha Yashchuk and Sasha Khomenko have been together for about five years, three of whom are married. Since the guys together write scripts, record and mount the video, then they spend next 24 hours a day.

Natali Yaschuk @natali_iashchuk and Alexander Khomenko @ khomenko.tv lead a joint channel on YouTube under the name “Khomenki”, where they discuss the latest news, interview well-known personalities and speak frankly about life before and after the stamp in the passport.

We decided to find out how they manage to preserve love, tenderness and passion for each other? And they gladly shared their secrets with us.

How to avoid a quarrel in a relationship: 10 tips YouTube-pair Natalie Yashchuk and Alexandra Khomenko

Natalie

When a conflict arises, any couple should conduct a dialogue. Why is it important? Because people who swear and diverge to different rooms, do not solve the problem. They just accumulate anger and resentment and at any opportunity they all pour on the partner. If the problem has arisen, it simply needs to be discussed calmly (perhaps under the vine), to solve and put on this point.

Alexander

Even if the conflict has not yet arisen, it is very important from the very beginning of the relationship with each other to talk. So you will ensure a quiet future.

Alexander

This is trivial, but it is important. When a partner hears you and listens, then your relationship is doomed to success.

Natalie

This is especially important for girls. They always need to speak out. Maybe for a man their problems seem ridiculous, but he should not make fun of everything or say “What kind of nonsense?”. It is necessary to be able to listen. It is not necessary to give advice. It’s important to just listen to each other.

  • Exclude from your life advisers

Natalie

I do not know who came up with that with friends and friends you need to consult for any reason. In a normal family there are no advisers. Any couple decides their own conflict. The more participants in the conflict, the less likely that it will be resolved.

Alexander

Everyone has his own head on his shoulders, his own experience. Identical situations from different people look different. And even if a person wishes you well, he still will not be able to accept and feel your problem. Sor out of huts can not stand.

Natalie

When a couple is primarily friends, they have a very cool relationship. They communicate in one language. I’m talking about a couple that is together more than 3-4 years. They even turn family problems into jokes and solve them more easily.

Alexander

Friends rarely quarrel over trifles. Conduct an analogy with your relationships with your friends, and you will understand that if you make a friend of your partner, everything will be fine.

Natalie

There are pairs where everyone has their own secrets, different wallets, “I went not to tell you where.” It seems to me that such relationships can not be called healthy. In fact, your second half should know about everything that you do. This is normal. You are one. You do not need to withhold anything. There should be no secrets. Except for surprises.

Alexander

It is not necessary to consider trust as an attempt on personal space. It should be for every person. And first of all, the one who is in the relationship. Especially long. If you are aiming at a long-term alliance, then you should give your personal space. But this does not mean that you should say: “This is my personal space. Go away. ” Everything should be with understanding.

Alexander

Natasha did not do anything to me this morning. Therefore, we quarreled. Just kidding.

Natalie

Surprises are very important. Unfortunately, they are only done at the initial stage of the relationship. Then it’s forgotten. Nobody gives presents and bouquets. And is it important. When you are 3-5 years together, such trifles please even more. After all, at the beginning of the novel you expect them. And when you are five years together, you already do not expect anything.

Khomenko

In fact, it’s just about different pleasant things – not necessarily material. For example, every morning I bring Natasha coffee to bed.

Natalie

Surprises are just something pleasant. Girls, too, should take the initiative – buy socks, for example (laughs). Over time, you yourself understand what a partner needs. Someone – socks, and someone – perfume.

  • Do not exacerbate the nascent conflict

Natalie

If one starts to conflict, the second one should by no means be connected. If he answers, the conflict will reach its apogee. There will be a quarrel. A wise man and woman in the conflict will do their best not to develop it.

Alexander

But not to connect to the conflict does not mean to be silent with Poker face. This only makes the partner more enthusiastic, who will say: “Can not you hear me?” Just do not develop it.

Natalie

Hugs are very important in a relationship.

Alexander

The importance of embraces is already proved by psychologists and therapists. It is pleasant and causes only positive emotions.

Natalie

And this is especially important if you work together. Sasha and I see each other 24/7 every day and you might think “Why should we hug at all?”. You always see each other. No, we are allocating time for this. It brings together.

Alexander

You are a union, you are a tandem, you are a couple, a single whole. All serious decisions – buying a car, an apartment, some kind of travel – you must take together. Listen to your partner and do not bend your line in everything and tell what movie to go to, what to cook for dinner. Everything must be done together. We live in such a unique time, when people with different preferences can find the golden mean. And all will be well. Do not pull the blanket over. This is selfishness of pure water.

Natalie

It is very important to do something together. It can be hiking in the gym, in the spa, even in the store. Sasha and I chose singing lessons. And we also go to the kitchen together and eat delicious food. We work together, so work is our hobby. But the guys who work in different places and miss each other all day, it’s not enough just to eat together and go to bed together. Play at least in the cards. You should have a common hobby that will bring you closer.

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